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Melanie and Jeff ended up dating, knowing that it might not last."She was so set on marrying a Jewish guy," Jeff said.That was one sacrifice Melanie made; the other was peace of mind."I was giving up a certainty for an uncertainty," she said.She knew Jeff was a great person and knew her daughter could fall in love with him.She knew that because they were from different religious backgrounds, one of them would get hurt.My mind drifted to our courtship those many years ago. She just wasn’t sure she wanted to convert, that’s all. Discovering the beauty and depth of Torah at those classes was part of the tap on the shoulder I had felt.As a favor to her, I had sung in her church choir one Sunday morning. I sat on that bench a long time, thinking about all the other intermarried couples I knew. And yet – there was almost always an unspoken chasm, a place in the deepest part of one’s soul where Jew could not follow non-Jew, and vice versa. One day, she had confided to Gayle that there were times she found it hard that he couldn’t fully share in something that was such a deep part of her. I was doing just fine, when I felt this kind of tap on the shoulder, nudging me to connect with You, pushing me to learn more about Judaism, putting me in certain situations where neither I, nor Gayle for that matter, felt satisfied in a less traditional setting where we might have fit in as an intermarried family. Another part was meeting the several now-grown children of intermarried parents who attended those same classes, who felt like they were not fully in either camp, and had come to Aish to figure out where they belonged. After my rant at God, I suddenly remembered something that Rabbi Turtletaub, one of the Aish rabbis, had said to me nearly six months before. A couple of months later, God tapped me on the shoulder again with the same message.

I thought to myself involuntarily, Yes, Joseph’s whole world transformed, as Rabbi Turtletaub would say, ‘in the blink of an eye.’ And at that moment, I let go. Gayle began to learn Hebrew and take classes at the Orthodox synagogue, which was becoming her spiritual home.We moved to an Orthodox community where we could walk to synagogue on Shabbat. “It won’t work” no longer applied to who we had become.And then one October Sunday morning, the moment finally arrived.While waiting just outside the church’s sanctuary for the service to begin, a friend of mine in the choir leaned over and said, “So tell me, what’s a nice Jewish boy like you doing in a place like this? My mind turned to a woman in Gayle’s church, married to a Jew. Gayle in church I stood up and took a few steps from the bench, now a bit defiant. You’re the One who brought Orthodox Jews in my path, just at the time we were in the midst of adopting our son. That had been when the chasm had started to widen, when our hours of talking had gotten us far but not far enough, and we needed to find someone who might help us figure it all out. Ever since the rabbi had told me “it won’t work,” I had stayed away from his synagogue.You’re the One who put the idea in Gayle’s mind that we’d raise our son Jewish even as she continued directing the music for a church. Rabbi Turtletaub met with each of us together, and then privately. Then one Shabbat morning, for some reason, I felt I wanted to go. And sitting among hundreds of people, the rabbi’s words seemed tailored just for me. But like pieces of a puzzle, everything started to come together.“If Gayle were interested in converting, then you’d have a chance. Before we met, devout Christian that she was, she wasn’t planning on spending her life with a Jew. Gayle’s not quite the devout Christian she used to be.But as things stand now, it won’t work.” I walked out of the rabbi’s office, asking myself what I should do next. Harold in the Air Force The rabbi’s three awful parting words were the only answer that came to me. But we fell in love, and suddenly it didn’t matter that I grew up in New York and she grew up on a farm near Peoria. At the church, she’s been connecting more and more to the music and less and less to the religion.And then one day, Gayle made the decision that she no longer wanted simply to do Jewish things, but to hear the call of Sinai, to be part of the Jewish people.And so she began to study intensively with a compassionate and caring rabbi. The more we embraced Judaism, the more it embraced us.More about his project for the Israel Sport Center for the Disabled can be found at Melanie Segal was sure she would marry a Jewish man. He was a Presbyterian, a denomination of Christianity. "But what if you found someone to date who wasn't Jewish? When Jeff asked Melanie on a date, Melanie's mother told her not to go.

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