Phone sex is a great and safe place to talk about the things you wouldn’t or couldn’t do in real life.
“Imagine if we were at an elegant restaurant, and you were under the table cloth, eating me out while the waiter took our order.” or, “what if we were at a party full of sexy people and they all just started f*cking in front of us?
If you’re shy, your partner might only need to know that you’re a willing participant to take off and lead for you.
Another way to lead your partner into it if you’re both feeling awkward, is to set up a roleplay scenario. For example, “Remember when we were in Aruba and I was teasing you on the beach with my cleavage and later the sex was soooo hot?
Lauren suggests “setting the stage” with a quick call or flirty text that will make your partner really look forward to talking with you.
Try sending off a “can’t wait to hear your voice tonight,” to leave them wanting more.
Luckily, Lauren Rules, a professional phone sex operator with over 15 years of experience, is here to give her top 14 tips on how to have the best, most non-awkward phone sex of your life.
And for sexy situations: caught with an erection, caught masturbating, being alone in a castle, deserted beach, or BDSM party.You know how Spotify free is like, SO GOOD until you hit an ad and inevitably hand over your credit card number for premium?Try teasing your partner like you’re also a music streaming service who refuses to give in to Taylor Swift's demands.Lauren says just like with IRL sex, it’s important to reconnect after phone sex with laughter and wind down talk after you both orgasm.So, make sure you both block out enough time to do this after things get hot and heavy on the phone.”Your partner will give their own clues as to whether or not you’re hitting the right buttons.You might find yourself following along with your partner’s imagination, or you might be taking the reins yourself.It’s perfectly acceptable to tell your partner these are your fantasies for phone sex only, and not fantasies for reality.Be sure you trust your partner and that he/she won’t weaponize them against you later.It helps if you’re already turned on before you talk on the phone.That way, you’re not going from, “Listen to this annoying ass thing that happened to me at the grocery store today,” to “you like that?