“If I make 0,000, then he has to make AT LEAST 0,000.” I’ve never heard a man say the same thing.
Face it: if you’re a woman who is in the top 10% of earners – and you INSIST that your man out earn you – you’ve now eliminated 90% of the dating population. Which is – in my estimation – one of the main reasons it’s easier for men to find love.
I would love your thoughts on whether women should continue to hold out for men who make more – with these two caveats: 1) Please don’t accuse me of being sexist for making the observation that most women want a man to outearn them. 2) Please don’t accuse me of encouraging women to date deadbeat slackers with no money, no ambition and tons of credit card debt. Just as I say you can compromise on chemistry – from a 10 to a 7 – I’m simply wondering aloud why a woman with her own money can’t date a man who makes K, the exact same way a man with his own money can date a woman who makes K.
In the same vein, I’ve had men grow uncomfortable when they realize that I am a year or two older than they are.
I’d think that at this stage of life (late 50s) a year or two (or 10) hardly matters.
I find many men are uncomfortable when they find out that I make more money than they do.
It doesn’t bother me if they make less, so long as they can carrytheir own weight; ie, child support payments, car loan, an proportion of “our” expenses, etc.