We’re trained to assume that relationships happen in five stages: initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, and bonding.Developed by Mark Knapp, the Relational Development Model (also aptly known as “Knapp’s Theory”) is the sort of theory that you know about without actually knowing about.It’s better to over-communicate than to under-communicate. Even if he doesn’t want to be your boyfriend, remember that you’ve got tons of GIRLFRIENDS right here at
In the meanwhile, we present this handy dandy “Is He My Boyfriend” Cheat Sheet: He MIGHT BE your boyfriend if…it's the intermediate stage, more serious than just casually dating to see if it's a fit or not but rather going towards a relationship but it's still not at the relationship level yet.Dating exclusively is not necessarily a committed relationship yet.If he uses phrases like: when “we get back from break” or “next semester we should,” then he just might be your dude. Anyone really crushing on you will want to blend you with the rest of his life. No need to make plans on Saturday; that’s when you guys always hang out. If you both have blocks of time in your schedule dedicated to each other without even asking, then you may already be in a relationship. So, last week you went to the movies with that guy in the band.If none of his peeps know you exist, you are NOT his girlfriend. This week you may go to a concert with that cute skater?I always thought the difference is that at the boyfriend/girlfriend level they are becoming involved in certain aspects of your life.For example, he/she might be involved in many of your circle-of-friend activities. The only way to know if you’re really in a committed relationship is that you both verbally agreed to commit. Without bothering to define your relationship, you’re in the Wild Wild West of relationship territory. Even if it freaks you out, it seems like it’s time to have a DTR talk, a Defining The Relationship conversation.The talk always begins the same way then dives off in one of two directions. ” is the question I ask — the logical question to ask — when a male friend describes a woman he’s been seeing regularly and exclusively. Sometimes he says, “I don’t know.” It’s as though relationships are the same as good weather, something that just happens to you.Is being exclusive the same as being someone’s significant other? Old me would have said yes too, but now I think I’m changing camps.