Under what circumstances might this be appropriate to say? First off, if you are only attracted to me because of my skin tone then you are not the man for me.I owe my entire light-skinned existence to a dark-skinned woman (and the man that loved her).Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Don't read too much into it."Ummm,it's a LOOOONNNNG way from some light bondage during sex to THAT...."-Dee4166Yep, agreed it is a looooong way.Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... LOLIn fact..men that I've met feel that a woman who is TOO "comfortable" with her sexuality is a sign that she is a slut or sleeps around...."-Dee4166It depends on her sexuality I guess lol. lol Someone who offers to sleep with me without even knowing me would strike me as easy. S&M has a long range, softcore like light bondage to the creepy stuff I mentioned.And while men must think, , let me assure you, sir, that that is not the case.Second, what type of woman would I be to continue to date somebody who has such disdain for women that look like my mother and my daughter?
Time and again I have heard this turn-off of a despicable statement in a number of variations.
Yes, my black is beautiful, but their black is equally as beautiful and deserving.
The most troubling thing that I find about these sentiments is that they are mostly uttered by men who would fall into the darker-skinned categories (reminder: this is my own lived experience, yours might be different). And, for the record, the only reason that I want to hear that you love my skin is because it’s clear, moisturized, and blemish-free.
The dating game is hard enough as it is without the complications of race and colorism.
But, in my own lived experience, the questions of race and color are impossible to avoid. Cole’s comments on the prominence of colorism in the black community and taking ownership of its probable role in his success, it is clear that skin color still carries underlying meanings of blackness.