Maybe you hate the outdoors and would never in a million years be caught doing watersports.
There’s nothing stopping you from exploring a phone sex fantasy of getting it on in a raft in the lake when the lake..in your mind.
Think of as many different scenarios as you can: the library, the back of your car, Paris, in an airplane, at a Costco, etc.
As for roleplay scenarios, Lauren suggests: cop, sexy nurse.
Although laughing through the awkwardness may work for some people, if it takes you out of the moment, try redirecting to an earlier point of the conversation. I bet you can imagine my warm lips on your penis right now.” Or shift the onus back to your partner with a hot potato-y “tell me more about what you’d do to me."Let’s say your partner goes from 0–60 real fast and starts calling you names you find disrespectful.
It’s important for both parties to understand that it’s okay to call a "detour" (detour is a word that can keep things moving, as opposed to stop).
Let’s say, you really love the fantasy of public sex, but you know, don’t have any actual plans to follow through on that.
Although, phone sex quickies can be just as hot too Imagine you had that sexy conversation right as your partner was about to leave work and come home?Another way to lead your partner into it if you’re both feeling awkward, is to set up a roleplay scenario. For example, “Remember when we were in Aruba and I was teasing you on the beach with my cleavage and later the sex was soooo hot?Lauren suggests, “Imagine I’m a sex robot you can program to do whatever you want. Imagine if I had done [insert alternative sexy activity].” Some jumping off points, should you need: “What if you realized I was wearing a strap-on under my bikini?Be sure you trust your partner and that he/she won’t weaponize them against you later.Lauren says if you can’t answer quickly and strongly YES to the question, “do I trust my partner? Safe, sane, and consensual is the motto to keep in mind.You might find yourself following along with your partner’s imagination, or you might be taking the reins yourself.If you’re shy, your partner might only need to know that you’re a willing participant to take off and lead for you.” or “What if we were invited by a sexy woman on the beach to have a threesome?You’re not obligated to only talk about stuff you’ve done or necessarily will do, during phone sex.“Imagine if we were at an elegant restaurant, and you were under the table cloth, eating me out while the waiter took our order.” or, “what if we were at a party full of sexy people and they all just started f*cking in front of us?”Make like your favorite reality show stars and start spilling!