She had a boyfriend that was nice to her at first so I was a bit jealous but I didn't mind as long as she was happy, but turns out as soon as she told him she wanted to wait for sex he left her and started dating another girl.
She's only a friend but she is so amazing and beautiful and nice.
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Well, sometimes you are that girl, but love makes your judgment too cloudy to realize. He's taken me out to dinners, drinks, movies; he always texts me to ask about my day; and he even came with me to my office holiday party as my date.
But then he threw this in: He said I'm the first girl since his breakup he's felt an emotional connection with and he still wants to see me. Let's start with the positive here: I like that he was honest with you and didn't ignore the issue until you were forced to bring it up.
I like that you're having fun with him, and he seems like a considerate, caring guy to date.
I'm thinking it might be a good idea to talk to him more about my concerns and maybe consider offering to try again after some time has passed, but I don't really know if it's a good idea or not because I never dated anyone with a needy behavior before. Needy, insecure behavior is fixable but it's not going to happen overnight.
You're not alone though..women are very turned off by needy men.
The unwritten rules of the dating scene can intimidate and discourage even the bold and confident. In other words, you need to stop and think logically instead of just letting your heart and emotions take over.I also the new person you're dating that you doubt she can measure up to the old one. He's clearly not over her, and that's my biggest concern here.That said, I am sympathetic to the enduring trauma of getting over a long-term relationship.And I like that he was clear about having feelings for you.But of course, there's also the negative: In general, if a guy brings up the fact that he doesn't want a serious relationship with you, he's telling you that for a reason and that can be interpreted pretty clearly. You see, I've been dating this guy for a little over a month and things have been going great! Writing in because I'm in a weird dating bind.Rather than just agree to go along with the confusing "casual" status, maybe you should take a step back from the relationship and tell him to take some time to figure out what he wants.You can tell him what you would and wouldn't be OK with—as in, "I'm fine with taking things slow, but I don't want to see other people" or whatever your bottom line is—and then give him some space to figure out if he wants that too.Six months might be enough time for some people, but I don't think it's unreasonable for him to still feel confused and lost and sad. Just like I would say to any of you readers, he deserves as much time as he needs to heal.BUT that doesn't mean he gets to string you along while he does.