All relationships are hard – but long distance relationships have a whole other dimension to them.
You need to learn how to productively argue via Skype without yelling over each other because jealousy, trust issues, insecurities, and not being able to see each other every day will lead to arguments (I mean, more arguments than a normal relationship).
This gets hard when you go to a party, meet up with friends, or end up at a concert where an attractive brunette locks their hand in yours or pulls you in for a hug.
You whole body is screaming out “FINALLY” while your mind is churning out in the background “But what about your boyfriend…? Do you have the willpower to purposefully make yourself miserable and craving – all in the name of love?
Two months after my future husband (but then-boyfriend) returned to Japan, I did what any love-struck college student would do.
For the next fourteen months, we did a long-distance relationship.
After all, no one actively decides “hey, seeing my significant other every day is overrated.
I made a body pillow with one of Ryosuke’s shirts, just because I’m weird and clingy like that. This is one of the hardest parts of a long distance relationship.
Over the last year and a half of long distance, I’ve had a couple breakdowns.
Let me just get this out: Long distance relationships (LDRS) suck. We were in the same time zone, but 10.5 hours away by bus (more, if there was traffic). I’m not going to lie, the first couple weeks, I sat in my apartment wondering how this was going to work out. Nearly a year and a half after we began our long-distance relationship, we both said “I do” at a small ceremony in Texas and moved to a tiny apartment in Japan together.
We’re happily married now – and my husband (silly as he is) claims that while our Long Distance relationship was hard, it made our relationship even stronger.